Lets Talk About It Series
Trauma can be as common as a gossip lie told to the wrong person and as devastating as the loss of a loved one. Unprocessed trauma can linger a lifetime. Left untreated, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can turn into various forms of mental illness. How do we carry on and go forth with our life when we’re stuck in the event and it’s all we can think of? This presentation gives scenarios I’ve lived and tools that I found helpful in moving forward.
It is estimated that 19 million adults suffer with major depression. This mood disorder causes symptoms that affect how you feel and think. Left unaddressed, it can spiral downward and end in suicide. Compounding the problem are well meaning but unhelpful comments and suggestions given to people as quick fixes. Let me be clear, there are no quick fixes. But there are things you can say and do that help a loved one as they journey through this difficult time in their life. Let’s talk about it.
One in six women will be sexually assaulted in the United States. Marginalized housing and homelessness amplify the risk. Sexual assault can affect every aspect of a person’s life; mental and physical health, employment, education, social life and personal relationships. Keeping it a secret further compounds the post traumatic stress. Many victims turn to alcohol and drugs to cope. Our silence keeps the problem hidden while the predators continue this crime. We must start talking about the problem. I for one, will be silent no more.
Every day in the United States, 3 women are murdered at the hands of her partner (or ex) and more than 4 million experience violence by an intimate partner. A woman is 70 times more likely to be murdered in the weeks after she leaves an abusive relationship. While going through the Domestic Abuse Program, I examined the patterns going on in my marriage. Once you learn something, you can never go back to not knowing it again. Let’s talk about the way women become trapped in relationships and the resources available to help.
Child Abuse and Neglect
Every day in the United States, 4.7 children die from abuse and neglect with 80% being at the hands of at least one parent. Every year there are 3.6 million referrals to child protection regarding 6.6 million children.Imagine the life-long repercussions. I am convince that a significant number of the 19 million who suffer with depression are a result of maltreatment as a child. At age nine, my mother beat me until my face was not recognizable and my body was black and blue. When you hit someone, you are sending a message that they are less than and worthy of abuse. I challenge the idea of physical punishment for children. as it is a slippery slope. Let’s talk about it.
Has someone ever said or acted toward you in a way that stayed with you? Stayed with you so you remember long after the words were said or acts were done? These lingering words or acts carry seeds that get planted in the garden of our minds. Some are fruit-bearing seed that build you up, support and sustain you. Others are thistle seeds that eat away at your self-esteem, demean and deplete you. This presentation gives you an inside glimpse of the garden that grew in my mind and the tools I used to weed out the harmful, unhelpful messages those thistles carry.
What is the story of your life? And how is it going to end? This presentation takes you into the perspective of your life as a movie. Most of us would secretly love to be a movie star, but few realize we are playing the main character in the movie of our lives. Looking our lives through the lens of a movie, we can step out of our character and into the role of director, consciously make the decisions of where we want our lives to go and how we want our story to end. What roles do want to play? Victim? Survivor? Counselor? Coach? Truth teller? Hero? As we travel through life, we dip in and out of roles. This presentation helps clarify your choice of roles while motivating the director within to fulfill your life goals.